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people shitting on orientation labels that describe attraction to non-binary people because "non-binary isn't a single third gender" and "you can't tell by looking at someone if they're non-binary" is honestly wild, because: a) i mean, you're right, there are many non-binary genders but people can still be attracted to a variety of those genders, including non-binary men and women. what's your point? b) not all attraction is based on looking at someone. quite a bit of attraction is based on actually knowing someone. some people's attraction will appear or disappear when they find out that someone has a certain identity. c) people only bring up "you can't tell by looking" when it comes to non-binary people, when you can't tell anyone's gender by looking at them. you can't go around proclaiming that non-binary gender doesn't have a look but then pretend that manhood and womanhood totally do. and the fact that people onlv ever brina this up to shit on explicitly stated attraction to non-binary people is just telling. it just feels like a way to say that it's basically impossible for people to be attracted to who we are, that we're always misgendered, that people can only be attracted to us when pretending we're binary, that our genders make us undesirable. you all don't do the same thing to attraction to men or women, despite manhood and womanhood not having looks, despite manhood and womanhood not being monolithic experiences. it's weird that we keep being singled out as the weird people to be attracted to. you all just can't bear that people actually acknowledge our existence and actually desire us.