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there's this growing sentiment in some parts of the #transgendercommunity that because big horrible things are happening to us, all the small things that happen to us don't matter anymore. because they're trying to ban us from public life, being misgendered is suddenly a non-issue. because they want to eradicate us, binary language is suddenly not that bad anymore. because we're being hate-crimed, having to compromise on your identity isn't a big deal anymore. "there are bigger problems in the world, suck it up" is not how you support your fellow community members, especially considering the effect of microaggressions and recloseting yourself and that everything done to trans individuals also has everything to do with how people treat our entire community.

the idea that microaggressions hurt less because now people are more explicit in saying they want me dead is wild. they hurt more now. please please please read about minority stress. marginalised people already often feel bad for having emotions because "other people have it worse" or "there are bigger problems right now". we shouldn't do that very thing to our siblings.

not to forget that having to choose between asserting your gender and recloseting yourself is often choosing between death and death: either we are attacked for being openly trans, or the detransitioning closet kills us. it's what they want. they want us to detransition, to go back in the closet, so we will either die, or they won't have to see us. this is all connected, especially in a world where #trans people are killed for asserting their gender, and trans suicide rates are high. this is all part of trans genocide.

and this is something i'm not really seeing in other communities i'm part of either. ace, bi, blind, fat and neurodivergent communities i've seen tend to uplift and support each other through the daily trauma of living in a marginalised bodymind. 

we already have so many impostor feelings about our feelings as marginalised people and this is not even about feelings, it's still. about. oppression.

we should support each other and i wish this was a given.

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Mx Delta Löhden (they/them/theirs)