nonbinary people are nonbinary

"trans men are men, trans women are women, nonbinary people are valid."

why is this a thing? the obvious thing to say about nonbinary people is "nonbinary people are nonbinary", and yet i keep seeing the above or other variations, like "nonbinary people are whoever they say they are". why? it's a small thing, but it's yet another situation where we are othered, set apart from trans men and trans women. it's a weird microaggression.

it's even worse when nonbinary people aren't even explicitly mentioned at all, when it's "trans men are men, trans women are women, the gender binary is fake" or something like that. why do trans men and trans women get their actual genders properly affirmed but nonbinary people either get treated like "valid" is a gender or not properly included at all? especially with how many people misuse the term "gender binary".

yes, nonbinary people are different and have different experiences than (binary) trans men and women, but that shouldn't make us less equal.

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people who desexualise disabled people don't "see us as asexual" btw, and the desexualisation of disabled people harms asexual disabled people, as well as all other disabled people.