binary fragility

if i see one more binary trans person go on about how binary trans people or sometimes trans people who medically transition are "pushed out" of the trans community, i'm gonna lose it. pushed out by whom exactly? by the evil all-powerful nonbinary people? by the very people they spent so much time not even letting into the community in the first place? by the people they have binary privilege over? as if.

i have never seen a single nonbinary person tell a binary person that they're not trans and should go away, but i've seen that very thing coming from binary trans people towards nonbinary people, including myself, countless of times, often in much worse language.

and let's not forget all the more covert stuff! the trans community is incredibly centred around binary gender. and if it's not centred around binary gender, it's centred around genders related to the binary at the very least. nonbinary people are constantly erased and misgendered and reduced to yet another binary. it's also centred around medical transition, where transness is often equated to it. it's become much less acceptable to overtly exclude nonbinary and/or non-medically transitioning people, but the way the community talks about things makes it obvious that we're second-class transes.

all i've seen is more people realising they're nonbinary, nonbinary people demanding to be acknowledged, nonbinary people being visible, nonbinary people proudly and loudly claiming the trans label and participating in the community in the same ways that binary trans people have been for years. if the increased presence and visibility of nonbinary people makes you feel like you're being "pushed out" of the community, you have a binary fragility problem, and it's the exact same rhetoric as when cis people say that trans people are shoving their transness down everyone's throat because we're more visible, or that time when some monogamous queers claimed there's "pressure to be polyamorous" simply because polyamorous people are more visible now.

nonbinary and non-medically transitioning trans people have been kept out of the community for so long and all we're doing now is participate in trans community the same as you, asking for the bare minimum of being included and you feel threatened by us because you're so used to pushing us down.

it's such a clear case of people being offended that they're now only mostly centred rather than fully centred. it's kinda embarrassing, ngl.